Latest Issue. Past Issues. Several years ago, I wrote a book aimed at helping adult children of my generation manage the many challenges of caring for our aging parents. I interviewed women and men across the country about their struggles and successes. I also spoke with members of the helping professions: geriatricians, social workers, elder-law attorneys, administrators of assisted-living facilities, and just about anyone and everyone who I thought could shed light on the subject. Everybody, that is, except the aging parents.
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I am watching television when my daughter comes over for a cuddle. Nothing unusual in that, perhaps, except that she is 23, has a full-time job, and is used to travelling round the world on her own. Most of the time, her response to even an affectionate hair ruffle is to dart away. So while this momentary closeness is a poignant reminder of her earlier years, I feel a touch of anxiety as well. Is anything going on in her life that she needs help with?
Healthy Relationships Between Mothers and Adult Sons
When kids are young, it's easy to find excuses to bond with them. After all, they're living in your house, and you get to see them almost constantly. When someone depends on you for food, clothing, and shelter, you don't exactly have to make dinner plans to see them regularly. But some parents worry that, when their kids grow up and leave the house, it'll be harder to stay in touch.
In today's world, our ideas about gender roles have been turned on their heads. Some of those old patterns involve relationships between mothers and their adult sons. A solid relationship with a mother is a good portent for a happy married life. Women are widely credited with fostering emotional intelligence in their children, and a son who scores high in emotional intelligence is likely to be more understanding of his wife.